<!--QuoteBegin-Sauravjha+Jun 19 2008, 05:28 PM-->QUOTE(Sauravjha @ Jun 19 2008, 05:28 PM)<!--QuoteEBegin-->Regardless of what tele-evangelists/professionals say , traditional Indian wisdom says that couples tend to quieten down after having kids. Go and ask any Grandma/Ma , she'll say the same.[right][snapback]83032[/snapback][/right]
<!--QuoteEnd--><!--QuoteEEnd--> <!--emo&:blink:--><img src='style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/blink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='blink.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--emo&:blink:--><img src='style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/blink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='blink.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--emo&:blink:--><img src='style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/blink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='blink.gif' /><!--endemo--> Wah? No. I know nobody like your grandparent nor any such "traditional Indian wisdom".
My grandparents never had troubled marriages. And they've talked to us often about their lives. They suffered sad losses of people, and also had monetary troubles, but marriage was warm. Next to that, one of my grandmothers knew my granddad since a young age and they had always cared deeply for each other. Their parents had settled the marriage, but 'twas long before determined in Swargam anyways. (My poor Granddad, for about the >10 years after my Grandmother had passed on - day in day out he would talk about her. Like Ramar left behind, with Sita returned to Vaikuntam. What can ya do. Anyways, that pain is over.)
<!--QuoteBegin-->QUOTE<!--QuoteEBegin-->But my own experience seeing a few examples seems to attest this view.<!--QuoteEnd--><!--QuoteEEnd-->You don't get it. Modern Indians with their progressive views are already too westernised - your comments on matters of 'women's rights' (when no one was even contesting women's rights) shows it. But half-westernisation coupled with half-hearted (ideas of) 'traditionalism' doesn't work. There's no successful blend of the two. You'll find the traditional half losing out to the westernised compulsions. Westernised stubbornness/non-compromise will not work with "let's have kids". In a half-westernised set-up it will turn out more like an Ostrich tactic: "let's have kids, close our eyes and maybe it will all go away". Nothing traditional about that at all.
<!--QuoteBegin-->QUOTE<!--QuoteEBegin-->Now people can hoot with laughter at that if you like.<!--QuoteEnd--><!--QuoteEEnd-->Can't laugh at the tragedy of your relatives giving you ideas under the confused garb of "traditional wisdom". Like Wilde says (maybe I'm paraphrasing, it's been a while) "Experience is the name older people give to their mistakes." It doesn't make it "traditional" just because your grandparents said it or experienced it. It doesn't make it wise either, certainly not when it antagonises real life situations.
<!--QuoteEnd--><!--QuoteEEnd--> <!--emo&:blink:--><img src='style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/blink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='blink.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--emo&:blink:--><img src='style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/blink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='blink.gif' /><!--endemo--> <!--emo&:blink:--><img src='style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/blink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='blink.gif' /><!--endemo--> Wah? No. I know nobody like your grandparent nor any such "traditional Indian wisdom".
My grandparents never had troubled marriages. And they've talked to us often about their lives. They suffered sad losses of people, and also had monetary troubles, but marriage was warm. Next to that, one of my grandmothers knew my granddad since a young age and they had always cared deeply for each other. Their parents had settled the marriage, but 'twas long before determined in Swargam anyways. (My poor Granddad, for about the >10 years after my Grandmother had passed on - day in day out he would talk about her. Like Ramar left behind, with Sita returned to Vaikuntam. What can ya do. Anyways, that pain is over.)
<!--QuoteBegin-->QUOTE<!--QuoteEBegin-->But my own experience seeing a few examples seems to attest this view.<!--QuoteEnd--><!--QuoteEEnd-->You don't get it. Modern Indians with their progressive views are already too westernised - your comments on matters of 'women's rights' (when no one was even contesting women's rights) shows it. But half-westernisation coupled with half-hearted (ideas of) 'traditionalism' doesn't work. There's no successful blend of the two. You'll find the traditional half losing out to the westernised compulsions. Westernised stubbornness/non-compromise will not work with "let's have kids". In a half-westernised set-up it will turn out more like an Ostrich tactic: "let's have kids, close our eyes and maybe it will all go away". Nothing traditional about that at all.
<!--QuoteBegin-->QUOTE<!--QuoteEBegin-->Now people can hoot with laughter at that if you like.<!--QuoteEnd--><!--QuoteEEnd-->Can't laugh at the tragedy of your relatives giving you ideas under the confused garb of "traditional wisdom". Like Wilde says (maybe I'm paraphrasing, it's been a while) "Experience is the name older people give to their mistakes." It doesn't make it "traditional" just because your grandparents said it or experienced it. It doesn't make it wise either, certainly not when it antagonises real life situations.