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Thanks for your response. I am happy to answer your queries with my best possible efforts.

<!--QuoteBegin-->QUOTE<!--QuoteEBegin-->Why not share responsibility? Why we need a dictator to run home? Democracy is best solution.<!--QuoteEnd--><!--QuoteEEnd-->

Pls note, Whatever I am mentioning here has nothing to do with the sharing of responsibility. That by default needs to be done. Dictatorship is also not what I am talking about. Democracy is also acceptable. To what extent in a family life is the question ?

For all those who follow religious traits meticulously, all of them states that "Husband" is the head of the family and he should "love" his wife as he loves his own self.

The point I am trying to communicate is that with all these love and understanding that we are talking about,  the husband should be the head of the family and he needs to take the final call wherever there are differences. Otherwise it ends up in no man’s land paving way for more and more problems only.

<!--QuoteBegin-->QUOTE<!--QuoteEBegin-->Raja :If you see the trends of failing families in India, within a decade, you can see the divorce rates of India equalling the western countries

Mudy: Why to blame women? One can't clap with one hand.<!--QuoteEnd--><!--QuoteEEnd-->

Well, To some extend, my previous clarification answer this question. Let us understand the statistics. Let us ignore the families failing due to cruelty, dowry etc. I am considering these as illegal act and the parties involved needs to be punished.

For others, the main reasons for failures are the ones listed below:
1. Lack of communication
2. Lack of understanding
3. Independent decisions and non-compromised arguments
Lack of communication and understanding is definitely the bigger topic which needs to be addressed separately. The point no :3, is the one relevant to this discussion. Here they end-up in decisions and arguments where there is no end. Finally each one them takes a call on their own including the family life. Ofcourse,one may argue that once communication and understanding improves, these things will be automatically taken care, but in reality this is not so easy.  We true followers of religion, over the decades we have set up an culture where ‘husband’ is the head of the family and he will take the final call on these kind of issues. I am stressing the point too much here as once these culture is cultivated again in India, there will be a great improvement in the success rates of families.

<!--QuoteBegin-->QUOTE<!--QuoteEBegin-->Raja: Also, the controls imposed on a girl to move around freely, will reduce the probability of having improper sexual relationships

Mudy:Why not put control on men?<!--QuoteEnd--><!--QuoteEEnd-->

Again, control needs to be put on men also. But, pls understand, the point here. Who is the one who is getting affected to the most ? For men, it may be an activity. For women, there are lot of post-consequences. Therefore, the control needs to be more on women. In USA, one out of three women is sexually abused. 75% of the school girls are sexually abused. Many girls becoming pregnant when they are studying in schools ? Do we need a culture where our 15 year kid comes back to us and say that she is pregnant ? Pls think about it.

Our culture and dressing styles are getting corrupted by the westerners. In the process, they also force "Equalism concept" which leads the nation to get "morally corrupt" like the westerners.

Thanks for your reply. Expect your further contributions on this.

Regards
Raja